The brilliant Kate Harding turns her incisive snark on rape culture in her new book Asking For It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture — and What We Can Do About It, and she joins Jaclyn for a surprisingly hilarious chat about it, including false rape allegations, early consent education, the recent outbreak of high-profile girl-on-girl victim blaming (srsly, WTF?!?), and how to resist the siren call of the comments section. Then we help out a listener who is getting mixed messages about masturbation.
Now that marriage rights are settled, what should the LGBT movement(s) be focusing on? Jaclyn put that question to Janson Wu, Executive Director of GLAD, the legal nonprofit that brought the Obergefell case all the way to the Supremes. Find out what Wu thinks of the marriage promotion rhetoric in the landmark ruling, how and why to stop playing respectability politics around queer sexuality, why GLBT activists should be joining forces with the reproductive rights movement, how to put trans rights on everyone’s agenda, and what it was like to kiss in front of Ralph Reed.
What would happen if we stopped playing defense on abortion rights and started playing hardball instead? Jaclyn’s guests Pamela Merritt & Erin Matson are determined to find out, which is why they’ve launched Reproaction, a new direct action group formed to increase access to abortion and advance reproductive justice. Tune in for a sneak preview of what they’ve got planned, realtalk about going up against actual terrorists, and a few puppies and unicorns just to make things fun. Then we help out a listener whose friend is dating someone who’s abused and harassed other friends in their group.
Right now, Amnesty International is voting on whether it supports the decriminalization of sex work. That proposed shift in policy has a lot of people cheering, and others confused and upset. Jaclyn talks with Pye Jakobsson, founder of the Rose Alliance in Sweden and President of the Global Network of Sex Work Projects, about the brouhaha, why she’s not a fan of the Swedish model, why she gets taken more seriously when she talks about her drug-using past, how to listen to the conflicting voices of sex workers, and lots more.
United Nations trainer and MTV host Francisco Ramirez travels the globe making the world safer for sexual pleasure, then (once he explains the numerous dildos in his bag to customs) dispenses free sex advice in NYC’s parks and streets.
Jaclyn talks with him about making the impossible possible, misinterpreting the hanky code, how he became the hero he needed, and the deep magic of being vulnerable with strangers. Plus some creative advice for a listener whose first love just ghosted. –
Jaclyn is joined by Tristan Taormino to answer this one once and for all. After that, we talk about why the question itself can be anti-feminist, what fantasies are for, why there is so much silence around them, and what happens when you ask a panel of porn producers, performers and scholars what they watch to get off. Oh, and we get really personal, and a little meta. Plus: advice for a listener who wants exploring a fetish but lacks the privacy or resources to do so.–
When I saw the headline “Toronto to host massive orgy for disabled people,” I knew I had to get the actual story. Luckily, Andrew Morrison-Gurza and Stella Palikarova consented to tell me all about the #DeliciouslyDisabled sex party they’re planning, plus dirty puns, penis art, pity sex, courtesy stigma, and how they’re changing the conversation about sex and disability from risk to pleasure. Plus: advice for sex party n00bs like me, and, in a Yes Means Yes Show first, one of us gets hit on by a hottie while recording the podcast.–
Why did a group of women of color who’d never met before feel the need to form a new organization on top of their already-busy lives and careers? Two of the leaders of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network, Mariotta Gary-Smith and Aida Manduley, are on hand to explain. We talk community, white supremacy, passing privilege, the real meaning of allyship, dadbods, male tears, self-care and more. Then we help out a listener who wants to help a friend feel better about herself.
What is it about period sex? Jaclyn gets into it up to her elbows with legendary psychotherapist, author, and sexuality educator JoAnn Loulan. Tune in for pink towels (and pink bathwater), squishiness, finger painting, Oxiclean, patriarchy, deal breakers, and straight-up science on why period sex can be the best sex or the worst. Then we help out a listener who wants more from his girlfriend, both in terms of sex and communication.
NEW NAME, SAME GREAT TASTE! FWF is now The Yes Means Yes Show, the better to get ourselves listed in and promoted by iTunes. Which got us to thinking: why are so many companies such buttinskies about sex-related expression online and off, and what are the consequences of the shushing?
Host Jaclyn Friedman talks with Matie Fricker, owner of Albuquerque’s best sex shop, Self Serve Toys, about the terrible spectre of vulva videos, Facebook’s ban on talking about pleasure, and how hard it is for Self Serve to get basic services like banking. (Oh, and very briefly, we rag on One Direction. ::ducks::) Then we offer some practical advice to a listener who wants to DIY sex supplies at home.