Did you hear? Young people are doing sex things with their newfangled technology. EVERYBODY FREAK OUT!!!! Jaclyn is joined by Tina Horn, writer, educator and host of Why Are People Into That?! to talk about the latest youth sexting “scandal” to hit the bigtime, the very real perils of moral panic, and the name of our imaginary punk band. Plus great advice for talking dirty in whatever medium you choose, but especially emojis.
What would it look like if Crisis Pregnancy Centers actually gave families all the support and information they need to make their own decisions? And what does that have to do with Bible Bucks, diaper packs and a breast milk bank? Shelly Dodson, head of the brand-new All-Options Pregnancy Center is here to fill us all in, and give us a lesson in choosing empathy over enemies in the process. Then we help out a listener who’s in a hard place between trauma and desire.
Jaclyn talks with Rachel Hills about The Sex Myth detailed in her new book – the pervasive belief that everyone is doing it more and better than you. We get into the pitfalls of rebellion, the impermanence of sexual identity, and what it would look like if we could create our own sexual vision instead of just responding to the ones pushed on us. Then we help out a listener who has no privacy and no sex partner find a little satisfaction.
The brilliant Kate Harding turns her incisive snark on rape culture in her new book Asking For It: The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture — and What We Can Do About It, and she joins Jaclyn for a surprisingly hilarious chat about it, including false rape allegations, early consent education, the recent outbreak of high-profile girl-on-girl victim blaming (srsly, WTF?!?), and how to resist the siren call of the comments section. Then we help out a listener who is getting mixed messages about masturbation.
Now that marriage rights are settled, what should the LGBT movement(s) be focusing on? Jaclyn put that question to Janson Wu, Executive Director of GLAD, the legal nonprofit that brought the Obergefell case all the way to the Supremes. Find out what Wu thinks of the marriage promotion rhetoric in the landmark ruling, how and why to stop playing respectability politics around queer sexuality, why GLBT activists should be joining forces with the reproductive rights movement, how to put trans rights on everyone’s agenda, and what it was like to kiss in front of Ralph Reed.
What would happen if we stopped playing defense on abortion rights and started playing hardball instead? Jaclyn’s guests Pamela Merritt & Erin Matson are determined to find out, which is why they’ve launched Reproaction, a new direct action group formed to increase access to abortion and advance reproductive justice. Tune in for a sneak preview of what they’ve got planned, realtalk about going up against actual terrorists, and a few puppies and unicorns just to make things fun. Then we help out a listener whose friend is dating someone who’s abused and harassed other friends in their group.
Right now, Amnesty International is voting on whether it supports the decriminalization of sex work. That proposed shift in policy has a lot of people cheering, and others confused and upset. Jaclyn talks with Pye Jakobsson, founder of the Rose Alliance in Sweden and President of the Global Network of Sex Work Projects, about the brouhaha, why she’s not a fan of the Swedish model, why she gets taken more seriously when she talks about her drug-using past, how to listen to the conflicting voices of sex workers, and lots more.
United Nations trainer and MTV host Francisco Ramirez travels the globe making the world safer for sexual pleasure, then (once he explains the numerous dildos in his bag to customs) dispenses free sex advice in NYC’s parks and streets.
Jaclyn talks with him about making the impossible possible, misinterpreting the hanky code, how he became the hero he needed, and the deep magic of being vulnerable with strangers. Plus some creative advice for a listener whose first love just ghosted. –
Jaclyn is joined by Tristan Taormino to answer this one once and for all. After that, we talk about why the question itself can be anti-feminist, what fantasies are for, why there is so much silence around them, and what happens when you ask a panel of porn producers, performers and scholars what they watch to get off. Oh, and we get really personal, and a little meta. Plus: advice for a listener who wants exploring a fetish but lacks the privacy or resources to do so.–
When I saw the headline “Toronto to host massive orgy for disabled people,” I knew I had to get the actual story. Luckily, Andrew Morrison-Gurza and Stella Palikarova consented to tell me all about the #DeliciouslyDisabled sex party they’re planning, plus dirty puns, penis art, pity sex, courtesy stigma, and how they’re changing the conversation about sex and disability from risk to pleasure. Plus: advice for sex party n00bs like me, and, in a Yes Means Yes Show first, one of us gets hit on by a hottie while recording the podcast.–