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Melissa Tapper-Goldman: Fucking While Feminist Episode 8

Melissa Tapper-Goldman’s documentary Subjectified brings the stories of nine young women’s relationships to their sexuality to complex life. This week, Jaclyn talks with Melissa about the film, and why telling women’s stories about sex is so important. Hint: it has to do with the response to Katherine Fenton’s question about equal pay at the last debate, and with Amanda Todd’s suicide as well. Then they take on this week’s advice question: how do you keep doing what you do when everything is so awful?

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Deanna Zandt: Fucking While Feminist 7

Jaclyn dives deep with social media maven Deanna Zandt about the implications of the recent showdown over Predditor, Gawker, and the general strategy of outing people who post nonconsensual creepshots of women on the internet. Plus: cocktails and polyamory. Well, talking about polyamory, anyhow.

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Anna Holmes: Fucking While Feminist Episode 5

This week, Jaclyn is joined by smartypants Anna Holmes for a chat about breakup letters and catharsis, this article by Kira Cochrane on what the Duchess of Cambridge has in common with a lot of high school girls and possibly you (hint: it has to with with cameras and sexual autonomy), and an advice question about what to do if you’re being sexually harassed on the job.

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Anna Holmes is a writer and editor living in New York. Her first book, HELL HATH NO FURY: WOMEN’S LETTERS FROM THE END OF THE AFFAIR, was published in 2002. Her second, THE BOOK OF JEZEBEL, will be published next year and is based on the website of the same name, which she created in 2007.

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Fucking While Feminist Ep4: Charlie Glickman

Jaclyn talks with sex educator Charlie Glickman about the purpose of the upcoming Good Vibrations Sex Summit, and deep fixes for the real barriers to cultural change around sexuality (hint: part of the answer rhymes with “hex shed”). Then they help out a listener who’s worried about a a friend in a “sexless marriage.”

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Charlie Glickman PhD is a sexuality educator, blogger, writer, speaker, and coach. He’s also the Education Program Manager and the blog editor at Good Vibrations (www.goodvibes.com). Charlie’s areas of focus include sex-positivity, sex & shame, communities of erotic affiliation, sexual communities and practices, sexual health, gender & masculinity, and adult sexuality education. He is also one of the authors of the upcoming book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. Find him online at www.charlieglickman.com and on Facebook, Twitter, and Google+ as Charlie Glickman.

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Fucking While Feminist Ep 3: Michelle Goldberg

Michelle Goldberg joins Jaclyn to talk about the Republican anti-abortion agenda that’s not making headlines, how to fight back about right-wing misinformation, the real problem with Naomi Wolf’s Vagina, the difference between new-age “tantric sex” and actual tantric sex, and even more. Then Jaclyn takes an advice question from a woman struggling to disclose to sexual partners that she’s been raped.

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Michelle Goldberg is a senior contributing writer for Newsweek and The Daily Beast. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller Kingdom Coming: The Rise of Christian Nationalism and The Means of Reproduction: Sex, Power and the Future of the World, winner of the 2008 J. Anthony Lukas Work-in-Progress Award and the Ernesta Drinker Ballard Book Prize. Goldberg’s work has appeared in Glamour, Rolling Stone, The Nation, New York magazine, The Guardian, and The New Republic. Her next book is about the world-traveling adventuress, actress, and yoga evangelist Indra Devi.

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Fucking While Feminist Ep2: Zerlina Maxwell

In this week’s edition of Fucking While Feminist, Jaclyn talks with writer, commentator and democratic strategist Zerlina Maxwell about the sexual politics of the Democratic National Convention. Then, they both chat with advice-seeker Eve about 50 Shades of Gray, the orgasm Olympics, and the difference between real and performative “sexual liberation.”

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Introducing Fucking While Feminist: the Podcast!

A couple of years ago, the fab Amanda Hess interviewed me for her much-missed Washington City Paper blog, The Sexist. The result was called Fucking While Feminist, a post which sparked all kinds of conversation about how messy it is to live our feminist values in our actual sex lives. Such was the impact of this interview that earlier this summer, when I was in DC at a feminist happy hour, it was all anyone wanted to talk with me about. They wanted advice about negotiating with their partners, they wanted help helping out friends in bad spots.

Those messy, brainstorming, let’s-get-real conversations were the inspiration for my new podcast. It’s called (what else?) Fucking While Feminist – and the first episode features none other than Amanda Hess, now a blogger at Slate, a co-founder and editor of Tomorrow Magazine, and a free agent. (She’s also working on a book about young people and sex.)

Here’s the plan: every week, I’ll bring on one smart and provocative guest to talk sex. We’ll talk about their work, whatever it is, as it relates to sex. We’ll talk about the current sexuality-related news of the week. And then myself and whoever the guest is for the week will take one sex advice question, trying to help someone put their sexual values into practice, and revealing a bit about our own struggles to do the same.

You can listen to Episode 1 of Fucking While Feminist right here. (We’re working to get it into the iTunes store and onto Stitcher, as well.) Apologies for the sound issues — still working out some of the tech. In it, Amanda and I discuss why there’s no Paul Ryan porn (yet), why trend pieces about whether or not the “hook-up culture” is good for women should just stop, and the sexual politics of the Republican National Convention. Then we hash out a listener’s question about asking for oral. Hope you like it — and if you do, please share it!

And if you’ve got suggestions for guests or topics for future shows, or want to ask an advice question, send’ em on! Fwf at jaclynfriedman dot com.

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