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By JaclynF

An Apology.

My recent column at GOOD* on Blue Ivy Carter has received some strong criticism, and rightly so. It erases the long, damaging history of white people (specifically white women) telling Black women the “right” ways to be sexual, as well as how to raise their children. Worse, it contributes to that dynamic. This was far from my intention in writing it, but intentions aren’t magic. I was wrong.

Obviously it would have been far better if I’d understood all of this from the get-go, and not written the column. The best I know how to do at this point is to offer my deep, sincere apology, commit to donating the fee I’ll receive for this column to SisterSong, and redouble my ongoing efforts to understand and undo racism, both within myself and beyond. These efforts take many shapes, but one specific approach I’ll be focusing more energy on is increasing my reading and listening to women of color who work on sexuality issues.

(*I’m publishing this here and in the comments at GOOD, but the piece will stay up as GOOD has no-retractions policy.)

By JaclynF

Halifax Book Release, Night 2

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Venus Envy, 1598 Barrington Street, Halifax.

The second of two nights at Venus Envy, this evening will focus on how to improve your relationship with your sexuality (night one, on December 7, will focus on why developing a strong, healthy relationship with one’s own sexuality is one of the best ways to combat the damaging sexualization of the culture.)

By JaclynF

Halifax Book Release, Night 1

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Venus Envy, 1598 Barrington Street, Halifax.

The first of two nights at Venus Envy, this evening will focus on why developing a strong, healthy relationship with one’s own sexuality is one of the best ways to combat the damaging sexualization of the culture (night two, on December 8, will focus on how to improve your relationship with your sexuality.)

By JaclynF

Ottawa Book Release, Night 2

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Venus Envy, 320 Lisgar Street, Ottawa.

The second of two nights at Venus Envy, this evening will focus on how to improve your relationship with your sexuality (night one, on December 3, will focus on why developing a strong, healthy relationship with one’s own sexuality is one of the best ways to combat the damaging sexualization of the culture.)

By JaclynF

Ottawa Book Release, Night 1

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Venus Envy, 320 Lisgar Street, Ottawa.

The first of two nights at Venus Envy, this evening will focus on why developing a strong, healthy relationship with one’s own sexuality is one of the best ways to combat the damaging sexualization of the culture. (Night two, on December 4, will focus on how to improve your relationship with your sexuality.)

By JaclynF

Toronto Book Release

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Toronto Women’s Bookstore, 73 Harbord Street, Toronto.

By JaclynF

Chicago Book Release

Join me to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want at Women & Children First, 5233 N. Clark St in Andersonville.

By JaclynF

New York Book Release and Birthday Bash

Join me for a reading and discussion to celebrate the release of my new book WHAT YOU REALLY REALLY WANT: THE SMART GIRL’S SHAME-FREE GUIDE TO SEX AND SAFETY, as well as my 40th birthday!

This raucous evening, co-sponsored by BLUESTOCKINGS BOOKSHOP will feature emcee JESSICA VALENTI, door prize donated by TOYS IN BABELAND, the burlesque stylings of SAKE FEVAH, FRANNY FLUFFER, ESSENCE REVEALED and TINY D, tunes spun by DJ LOBOTOMY COPTER before and after the show, JACLYN, interviewed live on stage by IRIN CARMON, and appearances by SAMHITA MUKHOPADHYAY, CHLOE ANGYAL, SOFIA QUINTERO, DEANNA ZANDT, JAMIA WILSON and other special guests to be announced.

No cover, 21+.

At Fontana’s, 105 Eldridge Street, Manhattan.

By JaclynF

San Francisco Book Release

Join me and the inimitable Carol Queen in a live conversation together to celebrate the release of What You Really Really Want. At the Center for Sex and Culture, 1349 Mission Street, San Francisco. FREE!

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