Books

What You Really Really Want coverWhat You Really Really Want:
The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex & Safety

How do I know if the person I’m flirting with is safe to date? What do I say to a friend who’s making questionable sexual choices? What if that friend is questioning my choices? How do I teach my kids to be safe and sane about sex without teaching them shame?

All women have questions at the intersections of sex and safety. And it’s no wonder: our culture bombards women and girls with mixed messages every day. We’re supposed to be innocent virgins who excel at stripper-pole workouts. We’re failures if we don’t act sexy, but we’re sluts if we actually pursue sex. We need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve “whatever we get” if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt.

Jaclyn’s anthology Yes Means Yes laid out a vision of a world in which we all have the right to experience the pleasure of our bodies without shame, blame or fear. What You Really Really Want will help readers create that world for themselves, in their own lives. Using research, reality-based advice, revealing quizzes and creative exercises, What You Really Really Want will show readers the way to separate fear from fact, decode the dangerous messages all around us, and discover a healthy personal sexuality. We’ll build new skills for safely expressing that sexuality with lovers, explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friends, and learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone else’s sexuality along the way. Coming November 2011 – pre-order today!

Yes Means Yes: Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape

In this groundbreaking new look at rape edited by Jaclyn Friedman and Full Frontal Feminism and The Purity Myth author Jessica Valenti, the way we view rape in our culture is finally dismantled and replaced with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure. Feminist, political, and activist writers alike present their ideas for a paradigm shift from the “No Means No” model—an approach that while necessary for where we were in 1974, needs an overhaul today.

Yes Means Yes brings to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently, and ending rape. Yes Means Yes aims to have radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished. With commentary on public sex education, pornography, mass media, Yes Means Yes is a powerful and revolutionary anthology.

Selected by Publishers’ Weekly as one of the Top 100 Books of 2009:
“Activist writers Friedman and Valenti present an extraordinary, eye-opening essay collection that focuses on the importance of sexual identity and ownership in the struggle against rape in the U.S., as well as a number of related issues, including sexual pleasure, self-esteem and the mixed societal messages that turn “nice guys” bad.”

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